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I still get too wasted sometimes. When I gaze back into the dark and stormy vortex of my 20s, I realize so much of my greatest life lessons were connected to sexuality. I came out in my 20s. I had sex with men and women. I tried and experimented in my 20s with a lot of different forms of sexual activity who am I, a nun?

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Remember, sex is as much for your own pleasure as much as it is for your partner's pleasure. I wish I learned that sex. I had so much bad, people-pleasing sex and I will never get that time back. By Zara Barrie. It's unsettling. See, Lesbian still a mess. Just a refined mess with more life experience on my side. What I've concluded is this: There are 30 things all girls should try before they turn sex Have sex under the stars ldsbian a beach.

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And the clitoris? Penises, on the other hand, are just And how could I have? Because of this, heterosexual men and even women themselves struggle to learn about vaginal pleasure. Throw homophobia and stereotypes into the mix and us LGBTQ folks are screwed when it comes to learning how to screw. While sex ed is a required part of the health curriculum in the public schools of 22 states and the District of Columbia, information specifically for LGBTQ youth is not mandated as part of the lesson plans.

Where do we go to learn how to sexually pleasure another vagina? These self-education avenues rarely if ever teach us how to communicate with our partners about sexual pleasure , and they barely skim over consent, two key components of healthy and pleasurable sex. Mass media manages to offer us a limiting, predetermined course of action for penis-and-vagina sex: foreplay, intercourse, male ejaculation, fin.

But there is no classical road map when it comes to vagina-on-vagina action not even a half-baked one! It seemed to take hours before our shirts came off.

I held a contest to name my very first and very own Vulva Puppet, perfect for teaching anatomy and sex toy demos. We were more successful the next time, and over the course of our year-long relationship, I really got the sex-with-a-girl-thing down. First things first, always check with your partner about how they want their body parts referred to. Diamond , or watch true-blue, bonafide queer porn sex scenes like those from the Crash Pad Series.

Learning anatomy on the page or the screen rather than in-the-moment takes the pressure off your partner to speak for all queer people with vaginas and will give you a leg or labia up when you get down to licking, sucking and fucking. Sleeping with a similarly new-to-vaginas partner has its pros and cons. If you were ever in high school, chances are you know how awkward sex can be when two virgins are trying to have it.

Letting someone with more experience take the lead initially is easier, and learning by example is pleasurable to say the least. Plus, if this adventure turns out to be a one-night-only experimentation, you likely run a lower risk of hurting the feelings of someone already firmly invested in the queerness quest.

I remember Debbie saying to me: 'Well, you know, when you care about somebody enough you'll actually want to,' and that's how it worked. I actually wanted to please her. Rachel had a similar experience. But she could talk about it. It's about empathy. Maria echoes a sentiment I heard a lot: At the end of the day, it's about the person.

I often say to my friends and to her, 'I forget you're a woman. She's Debbie. You get some push-back when you decide to write about later-in-life lesbians.

Another friend objected to what she perceived as any suggestion that homosexuality is a choice. These are common refrains, it turns out. Sachs describes a conversation she had with a gay friend when they were both in their late twenties: "I said something flippant, like, 'I could have been gay, I could have chosen that path.

Basically what she said is, This is my fucking life. This is the blood that courses through my veins. Don't tell me you could maybe choose it. Her point is that to judge gayness based on length of time served, so to speak, is its own kind of bigotry.

Diamond says, "The formation of the gay community was people speaking out and feeling a sense of collectiveness, like, 'Oh my God, I struggled and hated myself too. Well, nothing fits everyone's experience. But there is a slight complication: "Straight girls do like to have sex with women," Sachs says.

During her separation but before she realized she was truly gay—and, no, she didn't stay with her husband after her aha moment—she did some exploring with women.

She was loving it, but then she stopped me and goes, 'Please, I really don't want to be anyone's experiment. I learned a new term when reporting this piece: barsexual , aka a woman who makes out with other women in bars to get attention from men. While both Sachs and Maria discovered their same-sex attraction as adults, year-old Katia, who was raised on a corn farm in Illinois, knew as a girl she could go both ways.

On the one hand, she craved intimacy with men; on the other, she didn't like the doormat she became in relationships with them. At 25, she hit the road, hitchhiking around the country for two years before following her first adult female crush to Atlanta, a "gorgeous belly-dancing girl" she met while busking in New Orleans. There, Katia threw herself into what she describes as a "dyke" identity, yet, she says, "I felt really guilty because I still loved boys.

I have a crew cut and a chain wallet. He looks at me and says, 'You're not gay,' " she says. They lived together for a couple of years, and then, at 30, she told him she wanted a baby. Nine months later, she gave birth, but the couple soon separated, and Katia landed at the Atlanta outpost of a community founded in the '60s to research communal living and human sexuality. The only other young resident in the house at the time was Katia's now wife, Leigh, who was also pregnant.

Katia's son was born a month before Leigh's daughter. The two mothers shared the biggest bedroom in the house, sleeping in a California king with their infants between them. The two have been together for 15 years and are co-raising their children. Katia is a better woman with a woman, she says, than she is with a man.

No one I spoke to told me that she lived in a romantic utopia—what relationship is like that? Not even those you have with women after you leave your husband, apparently. But to the extent these couples work, it seems as much a product of the self-awareness that preceded the gender switch as of the switch itself. To paraphrase Cynthia Nixon in The New York Times , the goal is not a perfect marriage or career or angelic, prodigy children—the goal is maintaining "relative sanity" in the face of attempting to have some of all that.

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